RECEPTIVE TO BLISS: Creating
an Uncluttered Mind
© February 2003 Debora
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| If you really want to feel bliss in your life, learn to
integrate balance into all aspects of it. After all it is
YOUR life! As you do that you can incorporate these same
balances into your sexual life. This fall and winter I will
give you an introduction to the Five Keys to Sexual Bliss.
We will use the five-pointed star of balance as our map.
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| The Five Keys to Lovemaking Magic and Sexual Bliss:
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- Creating an Environment that is a haven.
- Creating a Physical Body that is healthy and receptive.
- Creating an uncluttered Mind.
- Creating Emotional balance.
- Creating a Spiritual connection to the Creator
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| Empty Your Mind - Go ahead, just try it. |
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| To become receptive to bliss we must gather and then dump
all the clutter, static and mental lint that clings to our
mind. It's kind of like cleaning out your closet in the
fall to make room for the new. It makes sense. We need to
clear our minds so that we have more room for input of positive
programming and thoughts. We also will be better able to
tune into ourselves, our desires, our erotic impulses and
be less distracted by the buildup of life around us. As
we do so, we can consciously redirect our thoughts and influence
our emotional surges into a more constructive life-way.
Remember that the spiritual, physical, mental, emotional
and environmental are interconnected. We are seeking to
balance these aspects of our lives for a more blissful life.
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| We've all been there at one time or another. He's running
his hand across your back and down your thigh. Kissing the
back of your neck and groping into your panties. Or, you're
sitting on the waterfront trying to enjoy the view but where
are your thoughts? You find yourself thinking about the
chicken in the fridge that needs to be cooked before it
goes bad or about the laundry you left in the washing machine
to sour. These minor worries are easier to delete from your
mind but they interfere with your bliss nonetheless. But
what about the major worries that many in this world have?
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| Major worries or thoughts may require extra work when
it comes to quieting our minds. I'm thinking about the sister
that's child has just been diagnosed with Leukemia, or the
sister living on the Gaza strip, or my brother that must
fight in a war he doesn't support How do you quiet your
mind under such circumstances? |
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| Discipline. |
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| These are the circumstances and life lessons where we
must give ourselves (even if only a few minutes a day) quiet
of mind for a few minutes of bliss- of tuning into the higher
love of the creator/creation and universal love consciousness.
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| This will help us to get through the next day and stay
open for the little miracles that happen especially in the
middle of war and crisis. We must look to the glass half
full- we must keep open enough to the love in every situation.
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| Cleaning Out The Closet |
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| The technique is simple. Under less drastic circumstances
there is no real reason to make this process difficult.
Try to prepare a physical environment that is conducive
to relaxation. If you are in an environment that is distracting
do the best you can. Do little meditations in quiet moments
as circumstances allow. |
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| My grandma-friend would call in "peace"? between shelling
during WWII when she lived in Poland. She would not only
pray for an end to the war, she quieted her mind and let
peaceful energy in so that she could have the strength to
carry on and deal with the horrors of war, care for her
family and deal with the Nazi's that had occupied her family
home etc The point is that she did make time and she did
carry on and ended up with the clarity of mind to not only
protect her family but she saved people by hiding them in
her haystacks etc Kept her family safe and outwitted the
Nazi's! She is 87 and still working to help people today!
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| Breathe! |
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| Start with deep cleansing breaths, inhaling through the
nose and exhaling through the mouth. Breathe in deeply and
expand your rib cage to inhale as deeply as possible. Quiet
your mind. As the jabbering thoughts rush in and distract,
acknowledge them but do not focus on them. Allow them to
dissipate and continue with breathing. Focus on your breath.
In and out, in and out . Practice will make perfect. Keep
breathing. Call in the Light! Say a prayer of protection
and pull in the God/Goddess/Great Spirit/ Allah higher consciousness
energy in to protect you. Whatever label or tradition you
follow, pull in the love of creation and fill your heart,
soul and body with this divine and universal love energy.
This will keep you protected from negativity as you open
yourself. |
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| Visualize! |
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| A technique used to replace negative thoughts is to visualize
something peaceful to focus on that visualization instead
of the distracting thoughts. Many folks visualize themselves
sitting on an abandoned beach and focus on the imaginary
or cosmic waves crashing in. Some folks focus on a sunset,
or rainfall or the warmth of the "sun"? on their shoulders
as well as the deep breaths. Distracting thoughts will come
in less and less. As they do come in, however, focus on
the visualization. This is a good tool to retrain your mind
into settling down and quieting. Sometimes our subconscious
mind is so full of fears and yucky stuff that very ugly
and strange, disturbing images and thoughts may surface.
Realize that it is simply your subconscious desperately
trying to deal with life's problems. Don't take these images
too seriously. Acknowledge them as fear based projections,
and tell them that you see them, then release them. Breathe!
Continue Breathing! Use your breaths to help release your
fears. |
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| Allow yourself to come back up into your conscious, wakeful
mind as you become overly distracted and fidgety. As with
any discipline, practice makes perfect. At first you may
just be able to meditate a few minutes at a time. But as
your mind gets used to it and you establish a routine, you
will be able to meditate and clear your mind for longer
periods of time therefore dealing with more distractions
and negative programming. As you practice this you will
find that in conscious moments throughout your day, you'll
be able to dump negative or distracting thoughts automatically.
This is a learned behavior and ultimately only you can retrain
yourself. You can always hire help to accelerate the process.
A trained hypnotist, counselor, psychologist or psychiatrist
can help you get started or help you deal with tougher issues
seeming to plague your mind such as horrors of violent memories,
abuse etc By clearing your mind of the negative input and
distractions we leave space for the good stuff! Without
all those distractions we will find that it is much easier
to tune into all the beauty, love and bliss surrounding
us! Blessed are we if we learn to look at the gifts bestowed
upon us. Always take life one day at a time, live in the
present and strive to move onward and upward. You can create
your own reality! |
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| "I dream of giving birth to a child who will ask, "Mother,
what was war?" -Eve Merriam |
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RECEPTIVE TO BLISS: Recreating
Your Physical Body
© January 2003 Debora
Myers |
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| If you really want to feel bliss in your life, learn to
integrate balance into all aspects of it. After all it is
YOUR life! As you do that you can incorporate these same
balances into your sexual life. This fall and winter I will
give you an introduction to the Five Keys to Sexual Bliss.
We will use the five-pointed star of balance as our map.
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| The Five Keys to Lovemaking Magic and Sexual Bliss:
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- Creating an Environment that is a haven.
- Creating a Physical Body that is healthy and receptive.
- Creating an uncluttered Mind.
- Creating Emotional balance.
- Creating a Spiritual connection to the Creator
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| As we know, our bodies reflect our thoughts, spirits,
emotions and physical environment. Actually, all of these
aspects reflect off of one another, so balancing the energy
we place into these areas of our lives will certainly give
us a better chance at bliss. But how many of us are still
running on empty even though we know better? What did you
have for breakfast this morning? Did you get enough sleep
last night? Were you in such a hurry that you grabbed a
cola and cookies for lunch at 3:00 p.m.? Most of us know
how to take care of ourselves. The problem lies in "how
much do you really care about yourself" and how much effort
will you go to for YOU? As women and traditional nurturers
we make sure our families are taken care of but we tend
to put ourselves at the bottom of the list. Yes, it is important
to take care of your loved ones but with that being said,
it is also imperative that we care for ourselves so that
we can continue on and actually love and enjoy ourselves,
our lives and those we love. |
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| Just as we can program our subconscious minds to behave
in certain ways, we also can reprogram our bodies down to
the cellular level. Example: I used to have asthma. I didn't
like becoming short of breath and I missed swimming laps.
I would wheeze and experience shortness of breath and get
light headed and dizzy whenever I exerted myself. This can
be quite distracting and embarrassing in the height of wild
lovemaking, (not so sexy either.) |
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| I would also have to stop in the middle of an exercise
class to catch my breath. I started meditating in the steam
room of my gym. I would inhale deeply and visualize that
steamy air as healing blue light expanding and healing all
those little air sacs. After a week of that I started swimming
underwater. I'd swim a quarter of the length of the pool
and eventually worked my way to staying underwater and holding
my breath for almost the entire length of the pool. I visualized
my lungs as healthy and fully expanded and pink with oxygen.
I don't wheeze any longer. It's really nice to be able to
run, make love and swim without having to stop and gasp.
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| We have to integrate the five aspects of ourselves together
equally. It isn't as simply as visualizing my lungs as healthy.
I also don't smoke, I eat foods that support my system,
I exercise regularly and I rest when I need to. I take the
physical or third dimensional steps needed to stay as health
as I can. Here are a few reminders to help you stay on the
road to good physical health and for integrating the third
dimensional physical routines into your whole existence.
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| Educate yourself about wholesome foods and health. Marilu
Henner has written a wonderful series of healthy, whole-foods
books packed with info and delicious recipes. Check her
out. 'Healthy Life Kitchen' She knows what she is doing.
Also Check out http://www.donlemmon.com he offers help with exercise and nutrition with a no-nonsense
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| Keep healthy and simple foods in your home pantry and
fridge. Willpower is needed first at the store and second
at home. Gently integrate your family into your healthy
food routine. Sometimes its way too difficult to avoid all
that junk food sitting there calling you ("that you bought
for them"). If your husband wants chips and soda and ice
cream let him go to the store and buy his own. It's likely
that if it's not in the house your family will opt for something
else, rather than have to put on their shoes and go out
and buy it. |
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| Anyway, you'll be doing them a favor as well. Keep healthy
alternatives readily available. That doesn't mean you have
to spend a lot of money at the health food store. A big
bowl of mixed fruit on the table and wholesome muffins will
be a much better alternative than junk and easy to reach
for. You don't have to be a great cook either. It doesn't
take a gourmet cook to prepare brown rice, pinto beans and
salad. |
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| Let's face reality: Tap water can contain many harmful
elements and tastes nasty. Keep purified water in your home
and stop purchasing the sugared/artificially flavored sweetened
drinks. Drink water, teas and juices. (Remember that "juice
drinks" or juice cocktails are just sugar-water with a splash
of fruit juice added.) Why waste your money? Eliminate soda,
coffee and alcohol. |
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| Exercise regularly every day. Walk, ride your bike and
incorporate some kind of exercise ritual into your routine.
Classes are a great way to discipline yourself into a regular
routine. Water aerobics, floor aerobics, tennis, weight
lifting, a women's basketball teamÉthe list goes on. No
excuses! Too many people opt out of an exercise routine
saying they are too tired, that life gives them enough exercise.
In actuality, a daily exercise routine will give you more
energy, strength and will help you to sleep better. It also
stimulates production and release of endorphins that help
you to feel euphoric and clear minded. |
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| Get enough rest and relaxation! Take the time to pamper
yourself and let your body have time to recover from your
daily stress. Don't depend upon chemicals to "relax you."
It's a very temporary fix if you have to use drugs etcÉ
Yoga, meditation and a hot bath can do wonders! Pampering
and self-appreciation are important aspects of caring for
your body. Take time to care for your personal hygiene.
Massage and masturbation are a wonderful combination for
sexual healing. If your body carries sexual tension and
it becomes congested you may find yourself dealing with
the physical manifestations of no sexual release. Many holistic
health care providers say that the negative physical manifestations
can show up as vaginal yeast infections, PMS, menopausal
symptoms and other gynecological and other body system ailments.
Love yourself and explore your body with a sense of awe
and gratitude. Give yourself priority! |
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| Pay attention to your body signals and learn to slow down
and listen to what she is trying to tell you. Take care
of the vessel in which your soul is living. By improving
how you treat yourself, what you put into your bodyÉ you
can begin to become an entirely new person. By creating
a body that is healthy and receptive you open yourself to
a new life full of wonderful and exciting possibilities.
You can create your own reality! |
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CREATING YOUR LOVE HAVEN
© November - December 2002 Debora
Myers |
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| If you really want to feel bliss in your life, learn to
integrate balance into all aspects of it. After all it is
YOUR life! As you do that you can incorporate these same
balances into your sexual life. This fall and winter I will
give you an introduction to the Five Keys to Sexual Bliss.
We will use the five-pointed star of balance as our map.
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| The Five Keys to Lovemaking Magic and Sexual Bliss:
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- Creating an Environment that is a haven.
- Creating a Physical Body that is healthy and receptive.
- Creating an uncluttered Mind.
- Creating Emotional balance.
- Creating a Spiritual connection to the Creator
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| Your personal environment is a reflection of your inner
self. Stop and take a look around at your home. What message
does it reflect? What feelings does your surrounding den
evoke? Is your personal environment comfortable? Is it pleasing
to your senses? Is it conducive to your inner and outer
growth? Is your love den sterile and cool or does it reflect
warmth, heat and safety? |
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| It is important to have an immediate environment where
we feel safe and comfortable enough to be able to let down,
tune into and hear our inner selves. As we work at eliminating
the distracting aspects inside us we will begin to create
an outer environment with fewer distractions and visa versa.
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| Are you currently living in an environment where your
plans are sabotaged by the people surrounding you? Do you
surround yourself with people that support you? Those that
we associate with are also part of our environment. |
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| Generally we have the power to choose with whom we live
and associate with on a daily basis. By realizing that it
is our choice to live among certain people we empower ourselves
to take responsibility for our own lives and to stop blaming
others for not reaching our potentials etc. |
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| People even use their children as excuses not to excel,
"I'd start exercising if I didn't have to pick up the kids."
Or "I'd love to take on that new job but my husband isn't
comfortable with me working nights." Are these excuses valid?
Or are these excuses reflecting your fear of taking responsibility
for yourself and your own choices? |
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| So really take the time to look at your environment. Look
at your choices of what and with whom you are surrounding
yourself with. With daily meditation, learn to get in touch
with the inner you and learn to define what it is you want
from life, then draw up a plan on how you will improve your
environment to suit those needs and goals. |
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| Eliminate the peripheral garbage or abstractions in your
thinking process and mind. Focus on the positive and the
goal. |
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| A-B-C, It is actually very simple. Nothing esoteric and
mystical, the energy we put forth causes a reaction. So
be careful and thoughtful about what you want from life
and what you put out into the universe. Remember the old
saying that cleanliness is next to Godliness? Well, there
is a certain truth to the saying. No, I don't mean to imply
that we should have that bottle of antibacterial goop with
us everywhere we go to please our creator. |
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| I'm implying that if we live in a clean and balanced way,
which does not harm our earth mother and those that we share
the planet with, we are thinking not only of ourselves but
our inherent connection with everyone and everything. |
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| Our environment and Haven is not only limited to our own
personal den. As our consciousness awakens and expands we
realize that earth is our haven and those we share the planet
with are our brothers and sistersÉall part of our familial
environment. |
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| We can expand farther out from there realizing our connection
with other life forms, spirits and angelic type beings and
different levels of consciousness out into an infinite universe.
How exciting! Remember that we are co-creators and we must
accept our roles and our responsibility for ourselves. At
the same time we must also learn to go with the flow or
not push the river of our Creation/God/Goddess' higher plan.
There is a fine line between allowing the universe to flow
though us and our conscious effort to create our own reality.
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| Balance Balance Balance! |
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| We must learn to express our creativity, our love and
create beauty in our love dens and in our physical appearances.
Your sexuality can be reflected in your boudoir and self
and vice versa. |
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| Do you wish to heat things up in your love life? Then
add some heat and warmth to your bedroom. Warm base-chakra
and heart colors can add heat and depth: deep colors, oranges,
reds, and magentas, wine, deep purples accented with blues.
Add plants that are life affirming and oxygenate the room.
Purchase or make soft cuddly pillows for comfort and propping!
Add artwork to reflect your deepest feelings and desires.
You may not be comfortable with blatant erotic images, but
suggestions of sensuality, warmth and erotic creation energy
can do wonders to inspire and help your Eros to unfold.
The right lighting can add so much to atmosphere. |
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| Remember that we are spirits living in a third dimensional
world. We must integrate what we want and how we feel into
the physical. That is what ritual is all about. Ritualize
your lovemaking and sexuality. Practice and habit make for
physical affirmations of what you want!! Just remember to
always keep the positive aspects in mind when affirming.
Focus on what you are creating. Not on what you feel you
are lacking! |
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| Your reflection is also shown in how you dress. Visualize
how you want to look, or how you look in the spiritual plane.
Now, how can you reflect that in the physical world? Today,
go through your closet and clean out all the clothing that
makes you feel less than desirable and frumpy etc. Take
those old clothes, bless them with good energy and give
them to your favorite charity thrift shop. As you shop for
new items keep your visualization of your (real) self clear
in your minds eye. Reflect that wonderful, loving, exotic,
erotic spirit! By taking the initiative in the physical
plane, you are in turn recreating and allowing your spirit
to be free. |
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| Recreate yourself and your environment to reflect beauty
and love!! |
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WE ARE THE GODESS: Sex,
Creation, & the Universal Mind
© October 2002 Debora
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| As my writing expression evolves along with me I have
struggled to place into words exactly what the "magical"
formula is to becoming empowered, happy and in love with
life. This is where I come to the expression of my higher-self.
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| Our Goddess/God selves are the
universal or group mind.
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| I was attracted to Native American spirituality as a young
woman because of it's recognition of our connection to nature
and other's around us. I felt comfortable with a spirituality
based on the concept of 'The Great Spirit.' The creator
or God/Goddess consciousness is not separated into a male
or female deity but is expressed as the Great Spirit or
universal mind that we are a part of. |
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| When we really open our hearts and souls and look inside
we eventually start to realize our connection with all of
creation because we are an integral part of that creation
process. I have heard far too many people including myself
say "but I'm not creative." As if being creative were limited
to being able to paint picture-perfect flowers on a canvas
or write an exhilarating novel. |
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| Once we realize that we are a part of creation, a part
of the whole we then can open ourselves to the concept that
we are all related. We then will find a conduit to unlimited
expression of creativity. With this awakening we begin to
understand why sex and sexuality are so important to most
of us. We are struggling to reflect, enjoy, create and reconnect
with Higher Consciousness. |
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| This is a simplistic way of putting it but I like simple
diagrams. Picture an electrical power plant as the Great
Spirit. Now picture yourself as a toaster, TV, computer
or other appliance. Now, if the electrical power lines are
frayed or become crimped or disconnected we lose our power
source and we shut down. Simple, is it not? |
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| By simply repairing our connection to the source we can
begin to operate again. The Internet is also a microcosm
and a physical reflection of our group mind. Think about
the net that connects the entire globe to one another. That
is how many of us view Great Spirit. How do we repair our
connection? |
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| Let go of Fear
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| Self-Realization
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| Universal Love
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| Non Judgment of Other's Life Lessons
(this is the most difficult!)
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| Many have found that the key to being happy is in the
realization of our connection to one another and the whole.
With this realization comes a universal love. As our hearts
open to each other and everything in our reality we can
begin to reconnect with the universal mind. We are all here
to learn certain life lessons on the schoolhouse of earth.
Let go of judgment, fear and hate. Concentrate on your own
path and open your heart to understanding and peace. Only
then can we be truly happy. |
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| Love filled sexuality is the ultimate form of creative
outlet. Our sexual connections have the potential of connecting
with the Great Spirit (How many have said that children
are a gift from God?) Let's look at sex and how we can dispense
our love in a truly holy way that reflects Universal Love
and the Great Spirit. |
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| As we open our minds, hearts and souls to universal love,
non-judgment of others, and all of creation we will find
that sex "lovemaking" is the perfect conduit to reaching
our ultimate source. When sex is made with responsibility,
light and love it can be the ultimate in transcendental
meditation. As we transcend our earthly and ego-oriented
limitations we will learn to make love to the world, and
everyone here as we ignite our connection with the universe
and Great Spirit. |
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| Make Love Everybody! Let's lift Human Consciousness together
into the Love Light! We are connected in a chain and if
enough of us rise above the negative fear-based emotions
we can pull others along with us to "see the light". |
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| Making Love is of course not limited to sexual loving.
Mother Theresa chose to express her love by caring for the
sick and homeless... Find ways to love one another that
fit into your life and then follow your path. |
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